This post discusses the three good ways a woman can make her husband help engage in house chores. It only takes wisdom for woman to make her expectations over her home a reality; only by it she can wisely make her husband engage in the house chores in pleasure and happiness, but not by charm, force or claiming of right, as some women do to or before their husband.

 

 

Home chores
Home Chores

Before proceeding, take note of this: to be factual here, as regards
this fact that the issue of man helping or joining hand with woman to do some (but not all) house chores: “is one of the best ways any man can show love to woman in the home ; that is, by easing her the burden of clutter house chores and as well make satisfied in the home“, as some people do say—those who are professional and experienced marriage counselors.

Thus, there’s a great need for you and me to know and understand the three wise ways any woman can convince her man (husband) to help engage In doing some cumbersome house chores in love and mutual understanding.

My Perspective

First, in my own perspective, as I have seen many homes (even the most happy, enviable homes) in sudden serious disorder as a result of the way many heads of the home view, understand and take the matter in question with their woman一most of them see it as a way of systematically and gradually becoming a slave to their woman. No! This is complete misconception because there’s nothing bad in that husband help his wife do some clutter house chores if there’s love and understanding between them! Of course, according to Scripture, woman is not a slave but an helpmeet and she should never be treated as one (slave) in the home. I therefore suggest that we view this issue from this angle, from my own point of view for the success of our marriage.

Now, What Are The Three Ways?

You said: “funny post!” This is perhaps because you don’t know how serious this particular issue is, and what it has caused in many homes.

I am crafting this post from my personal experience, and it’s not just a fiction but a reality. So please keep reading till the end. Don’t just have a cursory gaze! Don’t scan but read!

Some women don’t really know how talk to their husband, how to make him fall for their wish. Many of them don’t really know how to make their man dance to their music only because they don’t know how to beat the drum to make him dance to it!  They don’t know that it only takes wisdom for woman to live successfully with man, most especially a very difficult, hard to please man.

Therefore, dear good reader, you are advised to please read the points going to be discussed under here and apply them in your marriage relationship because I am very sure they’re going to work for you like charm.

The Points Discussed Under Here:

  1. Don’t Force Him Do It: here we are! This is where some women have been making a serious mistake, trying to force their husband to do house chores, perhaps because of the nature of their work or their husband is jobless ,who sits at home doing nothing, all day. Don’t force it on him! This is what these kind of women women are used to saying: “darling, I think since I have been out for work since morning, I don’t have to come back home and start doing any work again. I think you are supposed to have done it for me! Eh, I think you must at least render help! Or how do you want to be of help to me in this home?!” Hey! Look, even if your husband has no work at all, you’re not in position to force him do home chores. No man can allow this! If you try to force him, then you are courting trouble for yourself in that home. Don’t force him, but use wisdom If you feel the house chores is becoming cumbersome, and there’s no child around to help. You could talk to him this way when is in good mood: my darling, I think you want to help me make this work finish fast as I am looking at those your eyes, sending message to help. You could do this even if his eyes do not speak well to you at all, but do this all in humility and respect. I strongly believe that you would see miracle happening in your home. You don’t believe? Okay, try it.
  2. Don’t Prove Him Wrong Or Claim Right Before Him—have you tried convincing your husband, and what did he say or what was his reaction? Perhaps he reacted angrily or tried to prove you wrong when making attempt to convince him? No cause for alarm! You’ve got to understand men and their behaviors: they always want to prove women wrong or claim right when it comes to this kind of issue. Some would say: “you think you can make or convince me to help you do house chores and eventually turn me your slave systematically?” Look, I am a man! After all, I am performing my duty as am supposed to, as a man! So why do you ask me to help you do house chores? This is utterly not part of my duty, not all! Not my responsibility!” He reacted angrily? Don’t be surprised! Almost all men react this way when it comes to this. Just take it easy when he reacts this way to you. Don’t prove him wrong or claim you are right at all,  but speak to in wisdom and spirit of humility and respect, for Scripture says: “wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands“.— Proverbs 14: 1
  3. Speak With Him In Wisdom And Humility And Don’t Be Arrogant—humility does it; wisdom makes it happen! But arrogancy destroys everything! Nothing these two things can’t do between husband and wife in the home. When you handle the matter in question (the matter in discussion) here with humility and wisdom before your husband, I am sure what you don’t expect will surely happen! But don’t prove before him you are right but humble yourself when letting him understand your mind as regards helping you do house chores. Of course, though it’s understood that men are hard to convince but so they are very easy to handle when woman has wisdom and humility. I hope you remember Samson and Delilah and how Delilah was able to bring him down to his kneels? Samson (the man that the great warriors, the men of valour among the great armies of Philistine had been seeking to arrest for years) was one day taken captive by ordinary woman without using weapon of any sort! This shows woman power over man in the home! The Bible says, “Getting wisdom is the wisest thing you can do! And whatever else you do, develop good judgment” (NLT); Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding (KJV).一Proverbs 4: 7. Therefore, only in wisdom can any woman make her expectations over her home a reality.

Conclusion

House chores is a mutual responsibility of both woman and man in the home, and there is nothing bad in that man help his wife in this because by so doing he eases the woman the cumbersome burden of house chores and makes her know her worth in the home and shows that she’s never a slave.

Therefore, there is no Limit to man’s duty in the home: his duty is not limited to financial provision only; he can still help in some other things in the home if there’s understanding and love! This life is easy more than you think.Success in marriage is all about love and understanding.