Money and sex in marriage
Money and sex
Money and sex

Money and sex do not make a home, but understanding and love do! But money and sex are vital components of physical happiness (but not spiritual happiness) in both home and marriage.

Marriage—A Vital Component

Marriage is a vital component of human being’s life—and there is no ceremony ever worth compared to it. There have been a lot (hot) controversies generated over whether marriage is all about money and sex, hence this logical question, “is marriage all about money and sex?”. This particular question has really been a major point of view among some group of people the world over today, most especially among youths, who are just starting out afresh as husband and wife to have their own family. Therefore, it’s on this note that this post is crafted purposely for shedding light on the subject matter.

What’s Marriage?

Before moving further, I deemed it fit and proper that I define briefly what is called marriage. Yes, I know you know and understand what it means, even more than I do, but it’s important to give It brief definition for the purpose of in-depth understanding. And I believe there is no way we can discuss this kind of topic without first defining the word “marriage, as it’s the the major key issue in this topic. Therefore, what’s marriage?

Definition: Marriage is a divine institution, a covenant, a bond, a tool of comfort, a tool for perfection, a spiritual house built by God, a remedy, an instrument of liberty and unity, and a union between a financially, emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally mature man and woman who have agreed to come together to be committed to each other as husband and wife and thus become one forever, in truly pure and unfeigned love.

Sex And Money In Marriage

Sex and money are two major vital issues in marriage that shouldn’t be handled with levity hand if we really want our home and marriage relationship to produce the desired result for us. Some don’t realize this that these two things are among the great pillars upon which the marriage physical success and happiness rest heavily; and without these two things, marriage’s success is impossible: Sex consummates marriage, and money defends it! These two statements are the capital truth in managing marriage successfully. Living them out of our marriage has great propensity to destroy it beyond remedy. The financial and sexual capacity of couples in marriage are the major component of their marital strength to achieve incomparable and unfathomable physical marital success beyond imagination in life. Thus, these two things are to be and must be mutually handled and monitored by every couple with pure understanding and love in high sincerity and maturity in order to enjoy marriage benefits to the fullest.

Therefore, Is Marriage All About Sex And Money Because Both Are Important In Marriage; Which One Is The Most Important?

This is capital NO! Marriage is not all about sex and money, but they are basically very important factors in marriage and they serve great functions in strengthening the marriage relationship to somewhat, most especially, “sex”. There are many vital factors for making the marriage a success and productive, about which couples must not be ignorant, as without them, success in marriage is highly questionable, but the issue of sex and money has no alternative!

Which Is The Most Important? Money Or Sex?

In the above, we said that both sex and money are very important, but the question now is, which is the most important in marriage? Or, do both do the same thing in marriage? Do they both play the same role in marriage? Do they both have the same function in marriage? If it’s no, then what makes the difference between them? What makes one so much important than the other? One fact I want you to know is that, “money and sex are both to the marriage as blood is to the body”—they are indispensable: if there is no money in marriage, woman will definitely leave one day without bidding farewell to man before she leave! Marriage relationship will surely be financially weak. So also if there is no sex in marriage, woman will definitely go out to look for an alternative to meet her sexual need (she will look for the way to satisfy herself sexually)! All I am saying here is that marriage relationship will never last without these two things. How then do we decide the most important one in this situation because both are interwoven and Interchangeable?: both must be present in marriage. The answer is if you make in-depth observation about these two things, if you critically examine them, you will definitely discover some hidden truths and facts about them. And it’s this observation I have made that I am able to discover some indisputable facts about the two subject matters here, which I want you too to know very clearly, so that you could know the real significance of these two words, sex and money, in marriage.

More factually, as said earlier, sex is to marriage as blood is to the body. Therefore, sex is far more important than money, and it’s a must in marriage; it’s God’s perfect tool for preserving and strengthening marriage relationship to keep husband and wife together in good loving condition. Marriage will definitely be dead without sex, for it reinforces it. This means a sex starved marriage will never be successful in life! Though money is important, but its significance is not worth compared with that of sex. If marriage relationship is not healthy, or is dead, or is on the brink of being dead, the cause is traceable to the lack of sex. Realistically, study has shown that marriage can survive to some extent if money is lacked in it, but if sex is lacked in it, it cannot not survive. Marriage without sex gives room to Devil to operate and take away its joy very quickly, hence separation.

The book of 1 Corinthians 7: 9 says, “but if they cannot contain, let them marry; for it’s better to marry than to burn“. And also, 7: 4-5 says ”4The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control”.

Furthermore, Scripturally, it’s obvious that sex consummates and preserves marriage, and it’s one of the major reasons the marriage is set up. There are so many reasons for which sex is found to be far more important than money and for which reason it can and must never be undervalue or underestimated in marriage; it shouldn’t be lacked between husband and wife if they truly want to be successful maritally.

More additionally, sex in marriage is one of the areas couples must comprehensibly handled and managed because, as said earlier, it greatly reinforces marriage covenant. Money cannot produce a child, but sex does. Money only produces financial happiness between a couple. A sexually inactive or starved marriage is heading for destruction. Sex, as an incomparable benefit of marriage, has been considered one of the great facilitators of marital success, which must not be alienated between a couple. Money and sex do not make a home, but understanding and love do!


Sex and money are both important, but sex is far more important than money is in marriage. A healthy marriage relationship is always traceable to the active sexual activity between husband and wife in marriage. Therefore, Sex should be intelligibly managed by couple; it should not be alienated, neglected and undervalued for any reason at all, because alienating it is a sure way leading straight to invitation to Devil and his cohorts. Though, money is also very important in marriage, but it’s not the number one factor needed by a couple to build a happy and successful marriage life. Therefore, marriage is not all about sex and money, but they are the major vital factors in marriage.