4 Kinds Of Ladies You Should Not Dare To Date, Court Or Marry

 

This post discusses the five kinds of ladies you, as a young man with bright, promising future, must not dare to marry to avoid regret in marriage. It also defines the basic meaning of choice-making and whether it’s wrong to fall in love with every lady that comes your way.

 

Marriage is all about wisdom, time and proper planning 

 

Quick Note: discipline, wisdom, knowledge and understanding are the master keys in marriage between husband and wife. When these things are found lacked between them, the marriage relationship will definitely be in danger, and the home will suffer from negative outside influences! Take it or leave it. This is a real fact.

If you are a lady, this post doesn’t suggest, in any sense, form or manner, that you, as a lady, shouldn’t carry your parents along when you are planning to choose a life partner, but it simply says that there are a kind of ladies a young man shouldn’t dare to marry, those who could definitely give them problem in marriage. And also, it doesn’t say that you, as a lady, shouldn’t listen or disrespect or disregard your parents in any form or sense or matter relating to your marriage because you want prove maturity, but it instead says that you should at least know that not every issue your parents must involve in, in your marital issues. 

 

Marriage Is Not How Far But How Well!

Are you mature enough to marry? Or, better I say, are you ripe for marriage? Do you think that now is the real time for you to marry? Are you now very eager to find a lady that you think you can have the whole rest of your life shared with and from there start to enjoy the happiness of marriage? Or, do you just think of marriage just because all your mates have married? No, don’t be silly to plan marriage for these particular kind of reasons because the appointed time God has set for each and everyone of us to do this is not the same! 

Is “Yes I’m Ready To Get Married” Your Response To The Above Rhetorical Questions? Alright! Then your response is good, and that shows your decision! why? Because it’s one of the best decisions you and I can truly make in life! But, you have to know that the journey to marriage is not as easy as you think—you have to know and understand this very fact that marriage can’t be a success by just thinking you are mature for it, or because all your friends have been married. No, you must know some basic facts about it. Remember, ”it’s not how far but how well”, they say.  If you are a bit late to get married but succeed in it, I think this is much better than rushing into it and fail. Marriage is a once in a lifetime event that needs some basic prior experiences and knowledge before it can become a success. At times, it may be full of joy or sadness based on the way you plan it.

What Is Choice-making?

You have to know that it’s very important to have basic understanding of what choice-making means in the context of marriage, what it involves, the process, so as to succeed at this stage because many young men and ladies think this term is just for the sake of just making a choice of life partner for marriage, and nothing more.

Therefore, that said, let’s quickly define what it really means below here for in-depth understanding:

• In the context of marriage, it’s the step of decision that a man or a woman who is looking for whom to marry (to make a life partner) takes before entering into marriage. It’s the act of deciding about whom to marry.
• Choice-making is a stage at which a maritally mature young man or woman is ripe and ready enough to find and choose a right life partner for himself or herself for marriage, which involves taking some necessary steps like prayer, counseling from professional marriage counselor for marital guidance and advice, looking into the word of God for spiritual directions to make the right decision.

Should You Ever Fall In Love With Every Lady That Comes Your Way?

“Should you fall in love with every lady that comes your way because you are eager and ready to get married?” Should you have the checklist of many ladies in your diary before choosing a life partner?” The answer to these questions is quite simple and very short. To avoid confusion, this is capital NO! Why these questions? It’s because I have seen many young men who have no discipline dating any woman that comes their way in the hope that perhaps they would possibly find the right life partners: they are not disciplined in their dealing with woman. This is a complete error that can definitely lead to serious regret in life! These type of young men always want to date any woman they find around them, and as result, they eventually find themselves in unwanted situation at the end of their promiscuous attitude towards women, all on account of choice-making. They, in the end, fall into the hand of wrong woman, a destiny destroyer, the enemy of their destiny who doesn’t have the same vision that they have. There are many ladies around you—very many because you possess a kind of specialty in you. Yes, I know this! There are many of them who are looking for handsome good looking young man with special quality to choose as their life partner, but you must open your eyes wide before you make your choice! Why? Perhaps you feel much pressure on you from these ladies because they are coming around you; they always feel happy to be with or pair off with you, and they too are looking good and special to you, showing a sign of interest in you, even you yourself know this. You know what’s going on around you, but you are in so much doubt—you are so confused—about whom among them to choose as a life partner? Listen, you must be confused because to make the right choice is not an easy task!—It takes some sort of steadiness, patience and wisdom to succeed at this particular point. Therefore, if you are under pressure of doubt in your heart to get married, I highly advise that you steady yourself, open your eyes wide, be patient, and be wise, because once you make a mistake taking a wrong step at this point by making the wrong choice, then your life is in great danger, why? It’s because whom you choose as your life partner; that’s, the choice you make greatly determines your marital success! In fact, as I must tell you this: marriage success begins from the point and the day you make the right choice in life. Your decision here is what shows whether your marriage will be successful or not. Wrong choice leads to wrong marriage while wrong marriage destroys destiny (life); meanwhile right choice leads to right marriage and complete marital happiness and success. Success in marriage leads to destiny fulfilment.

Why Should You Marry On The Ground Of Beauty?

Though there are so many beautiful ladies around you, but not every lady are good to choose as your life partner. They may have good looking appearance, and they may be social, educated, understanding and loved by everybody, but they may not posses the wife materials. Inside they may not have what it takes a woman to be a real good woman to man in the home. Therefore, young gentleman, this will be a disappointment if you fall into the hand of a lady like this. They may not be worthy of marriage. They may not possess marriage materials. Beauty is a deception. Beauty is just an outward appearance which has nothing to do with marriage success. ”Beauty is nothing but character is needed”, so they say.  If a woman is beautiful without character (quality wife material), she is nothing a mere woman, but if a woman is beautiful and has character, she is worth traveling a thousand mile to find to make a wife.

In a nutshell, If you marry on the ground of beauty, then you are bound to regret and suffer for the whole rest of your life. If a lady has character (if she has wife material), and she’s around me, I will do anything (give whatever cost) to make her a wife.

Warning: be wise because beauty deceives!

Four Kinds Of Ladies You Should Not Dare To Marry

As said earlier, from study, I have discovered for you five major kinds of ladies you should never dare to marry in if you want to have peace, rest and to live a perfect happy life—a highly fruitful and meaningful life.

Listed under here are the major five kinds of ladies fully explained one after the other:

1. A lady who can’t decide without her parents—you would be surprised that I made this point. Yes, it’s true that there are some ladies who can’t do without their parents, even after they are married, most especially their mother. Little is that of father in this. A lady like this can’t do anything alone in her own sense; she can’t make decision by herself. If anything should happen between this type of lady and her husband in marriage, she will quickly run to her parents and report everything that happened between her and her husband to them from the beginning to the end. A lady like this, her mother or father is her God.
2. A lady who can’t decide without her friends—if you have a lady who can’t personally decide without her friends or third party rather (a lady who exposes everything about herself to her friends before making a decision, somebody who doesn’t have secret at all, a lousy, undisciplined lady), you can never enjoy such a lady like this in marriage! Why? It’s because it’s very easy for her this to ignorantly destroy her marriage by exposing her marriage affairs to outsiders, most especially her friends who look like real friends to her, but those who are real enemies to her destiny and joy in life. A lady like this allows negative outside influences to take control over her marriage.
3. A lady with different vision from yours—if you ever dare to marry a lady whose vision is entirely different from yours, then you personally spell doom for yourself and your marriage destiny! Answer me this question: how do you think that if you marry a lady whose entire vision, focus, ambition and aspiration in life is 100% different from yours, there would be success in your marriage? I think not so! Why? It’s because from mine own personal practical experience about marriage, any marriage that will have a successful end will and must involve the marriage partners, from the beginning, to have one hope, focus, ambition and aspiration in their journey to marriage. So, marrying a lady like this won’t do you any good in life.
4. A lady for whom you feel, but who doesn’t feel for you—there should be mutual feelings in partners who are planning to get married to each other to become one as husband and wife. When you see or notice that the lady you think to be your life partner has no sign of feeling for you, you must understand that this type of lady is not right for you in marriage. You should therefore stop the journey before the journey stops you. If you are planning to marry a lady, but she’s giving you one or two reasons to have a feeling doubt, please call it quit before it’s too late.

Conclusion

Young man, you don’t just enter into marriage with any lady you see, but you try to watch, study, examine and observe, most especially during courtship because this is the best time you can find out some things about your partner in order to see if you both are maritally compatible. So, all those four things listed above are a reality I know you must know about before ever choosing a lady to make your life partner.