Marry her because you love her and that God say “yes she is the one” and because you want to fulfill destiny in life, but not because of the way she looks (her appearance, physical outlook). There is deception in beauty but truth in character!

We are in new era, the time in which many things are happening in our world, in our environment today, where which many young people have been ignorantly and foolishly putting themselves in trouble (bondage of wrong relationship) from which they cannot easily come out without having an injury. I intentionally crafted this post to show us that there are some things we don’t consider when discussing choice-making issue (we consider them minor and unimportant), but which definitely have great potential to lead man to making a wrong choice. I thus considered these things as something calling for serious attention of young people like me, who have dedicated themselves, their entire life, to the betterment of their neighbors’ life, both online and offline, to please orientate their people concerning these things. Once again, these things are calling for the attention of those who have dedicatedly pledged to be contributing positively to the life of their fellow brothers and sisters and their entire generation generally, most especially, over the issue of choice-making (that’s, over how to be successful in relationship and marriage, how to choose a right life partner and the factors involved in making the right choice to avoid making a terrible mistake, as some people have made already and thus crying for help, but no one could help them out of their predicament). There is a great lesson to learn here!

Though it’s a long post but very interesting! Please read it all.

Before we proceed, Look below here to see what these Bible verses say:

Scripture: Proverbs 5: 1-17

1My son, pay attention to my wisdom; listen carefully to my wise counsel. 2Then you will show discernment, and your lips will express what you’ve learned. 3For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil. 4But in the end she is as bitter as poison, as dangerous as a double-edged sword. 5Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave. a 6For she cares nothing about the path to life. She staggers down a crooked trail and doesn’t realize it. 7So now, my sons, listen to me. Never stray from what I am about to say: 8Stay away from her!Don’t go near the door of her house! 9 If you do, you will lose your honor and will lose to merciless people all you have achieved. 10Strangers will consume your wealth, and someone else will enjoy the fruit of your labor. 11In the end you will groan in anguish when disease consumes your body. 12You will say, “How I hated discipline! If only I had not ignored all the warnings! 13Oh, why didn’t I listen to my teachers? Why didn’t I pay attention to my instructors? 14I have come to the brink of utter ruin, and now I must face public disgrace.” 15Drink water from your own well—share your love only with your wife. b 16Why spill the water of your springs in the streets, having sex with just anyone?c 17You should reserve it for yourselves. Never share it with strangers”.

Note: the points going to be discussed here are somehow funny enough—sincerely—to make you laugh and laugh, but it contains some facts/realities that one has to really know (be familiar with) before entering into marriage. Marriage is not instituted for babies who have not understood the difference between the right and the left hands, but it’s for those who are mature enough to take up family responsibilities. Though they seemed funny but unfunny! They are a fact derived from experience as a marriage counselor. And as an experienced marriage counselor who has witnessed many funny (funny but highly detrimental to marriage success and health) and unfunny marital cases (truly unfunny but that which have great tendency to render marriage unproductive and useless in the end) like the ones going to be discussed with you here, I deemed it fit and very important and necessary for me to have this discussed with you for orientation and enlightenment purposes.

Marriage is about becoming a team. You’re going to spend the rest of  your life learning about each other, and every now and then, things blow up. But the beauty of marriage is that if you picked the right person and you both love each other, you will always figure out a way to get through it—By Nicholas Sparks

Choice-making Is An Inevitable Step To Marriage, But Any Mistake Made Here Is Very Dangerous

Choice-making is the first critical issue in your step to marriage. You must know this well. And it’s an inevitable step/stage that can’t be evaded by anybody who to marry to become a family in life, be it man or woman. And this stage of choice-making is one of the most dangerous stages in entering into marriage; it’s a stage at which one needs to be extra-careful to avoid making a mistake that could lead to a serious regret and sorrow in the end. Confusion always rises at this stage: youths, most especially women always find themselves in serious confusion (difficult situation of choice-making) as to how to find whom to choose as true life partner, and this has lead many of them in the wrong direction. The fact here is that to be successful as a man at this stage, wisdom and prior knowledge are seriously required, and this wisdom and knowledge are what this post is all about because any mistake made at this stage has great propensity to destroy life and destiny. And also, success achieved at this stage is one of the determining factor to ensuring good, promising marital future.

The Three Wrong Reasons Today’s Men Get Attracted To Women Fully Discussed

I am going to expound each point made here one after the other so that you could vividly know and understand what I am saying regarding this matter—choice-making. Though there are many things (factors) discovered to be causing today’s young men fall into the hand of wrong woman today, but only three of them are going to be fully discussed here. There are many factors discovered greatly contributing to today’s young men’s wrong choice-making which I will have to discuss in the next post.  But let’s first discuss the basic three confirmed factors for this problem below here:

Physical Appearance

One of the most wrong reasons today’s men get attracted to wrong women and become completely hooked in their net is a choice made based on woman’s appearance (physical outlook). It’s discovered that men, generally,  are attracted to appearance; that’s, to what they see than to what they hear while women are attracted to what they hear than to what they see. It’s vice versa. And as a result, this has been the bane of trouble for almost every man in resisting the sight of woman’s nakedness. For instance, do you remember King David in the Bible, how he was unable to control his sight at Bathsheba, Uriah’s wife, because of her beauty? The Bible says in the 2 Samuel 11: 2-5 “One evening, David got up from his couch and was pacing back and forth on the roof of the palace. From the roof he saw a woman bathing; the woman was very beautiful. David sent someone and inquired about the woman. The report came back: “Isn’t this Eliam’s daughter Bathsheba, the wife of Uriah the Hittite?” So David sent messengers to get her. When she came to him, he had sex with her. (Now she had been purifying herself after her monthly period.) Then she returned home. The woman conceived and sent word to David.  This marked the beginning of king David’s fall! Therefore, choice-making based on physical appearance (outward look) is completely a great error for a youth who wants to succeed maritally. Beauty is a deception, a serious trap leading to a great regret and destruction in life. “Beauty is nothing but character is needed”, so they say. Therefore, never walk up to a lady for proposal only because she is beautiful or because of her way of speaking is excellent but propose to her because you want to succeed maritally and fulfill destiny in life, for the Bible says, “3For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil. 4But in the end she is as bitter as poison, as dangerous as a double-edged sword. 5Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave. a 6For she cares nothing about the path to life”.—Proverbs 5: 3-6. Though the beginning may be sweet but the end will surely be sorrowful.

Under the this point, appearance, below here are the three major things discovered in women that almost every man are commonly and easily found attracted to. Even the women know this; and that’s why many of today’s women are fond of nude dress to expose the most sensitive parts of their body because they know it’s one of the irresistible baits to which most men are easily attracted and hence got completely hooked in their net. Though you might be wondering how true this is, but I am telling you that it’s a reality brought to you from my own personal experience as a marriage counselor, who knows what it takes for someone to be successful in marriage. I am a man, and I have once found myself in this particular same situation (I have been tempted many times) before God got me saved from the power of Satan, flesh and sin. You need to be free from these.things too.

  1. Big breasts—It’s a pity that I have come across some groups of young men who told me how they do feel at sighting woman’s breasts: they do completely lose control seeing a woman’s breasts. If this is happening to you, as a man, you have to be very careful that you don’t destroy your life by marrying to a woman because she has big breasts and not because she will give joy, peace and rest of mind in marriage. Are you in doubt about this? Yes, this is happening! And this is one of the rare, uncommon facts you will ever come across on the internet!   Some men even said they can’t get married to a woman without big pointed breasts because that’s what they really look for and enjoy in woman. This is serious! No wonder that many marriages do quickly come to a sudden end today without solution!
  2. Big bottom—Recently, when trouble began between a man and his wife to the extent that the man became completely tired of her wife only because (of her situation) she had an accident. And unfortunately for the woman, part of her bottom got condemned completely, which resulted in removing the condemned buttock by operation so that she could stay alive. Immediately this happened, this man became completely confused as to what to do about the woman’s situation, which lead him to sudden plan for divorce. But the woman noticed and observed the situation and the sudden change in her husband and called him to attention that she knew what he was planning to do about her situation. But unfortunately, the man reply was so shocking that the woman was so amazed and dumbfounded that such an foolish utterance could come out of the man’s mouth. This lead to the quick untimely death of the woman. Do you want know what the man said? He said bluntly, shamelessly and uncontrollably and unfeelingly: “I didn’t think it this way! I didn’t think this would ever happen to you, my dear! I didn’t know that part of your body would be removed because I got married to you because of the way I saw it”. He repeated the same statement before his friends! Can you imagine this foolish man? Got married to a woman because of her big bottom. It means he doesn’t love her, but he only married her because her bottom. What a shameless and useless and irresponsible, God damned man!
  3. facial beauty—Many young men fall in love with woman head over heels based on facial beauty, forgetting that marriage is far beyond this. This is where deception lies, and here marks the beginning of marital failure. Beauty is a deception that easily lures men into the pit of endless regret and sorrow and finally utter destruction. To succeed maritally—you must therefore understand that choice-making, entering into a relationship with a woman to become a family, finding a life partner; that’s, somebody you are going to have the whole rest of your life shared with, or whatever you can call it—needs you to understand the basic Godly principles of finding the right life partner that will give you joy, comfort and happiness in life. And these principles are going to be discussed in the next post.


Choice-making, finding a life partner or making the right choice does not based on any of the points made in the above discussions, at all. The points, though seemed very funny but, contains some funny facts/realities because I have come across so many youths who have already fallen into the pit of strange women ignorantly. Young man, be careful and choose wisely!